I really wish that homeschooling were a way to guarantee that my kids will never be lured into pornography’s trap of devastation. But alas, it’s not. Several moms who I respect and admire have related accounts of the struggles their homeschooled teens have faced. That got me thinking of how I, as a mom of a 9 and 7 year old, can start to protect, educate, and empower my kids before they are faced with pornographic images.
My favourite resource that I have found so far on the subject is the book Good Pictures, Bad Pictures: Porn-proofing today’s young kids by Kristen A. Jenson and Gail Poyner. This book is brilliant! It defines pornography in an appropriate way and gives kids a “CAN-DO” plan so that they know what to do when they see it. Like the stop, drop & roll that we all know from our fire prevention education, “CAN-DO” is a memory trigger in the form of an acronym for what to do if images are put in front of you by whatever means (a computer screen, friend’s home, etc.)
Before putting this book into the RVHEA library collection, I read through it with my children and we had some good conversations. Another mom borrowed it from the RVHEA library and read it with her 13 year old. She said it sparked some good dialogue with him. Obviously the conversations that she had with her 13 year old were different than what I discussed with my 7 year old, but that’s one of the things that makes this book so great. It can be used with different ages – you just take the conversation to the level that is appropriate for your child.
I plan on re-reading this book with my kids on an annual basis for now and perhaps more often when they hit puberty. Yes, we have filters on our computer. Yes, we monitor what they watch, read, and listen to. We will continue to be diligent and intentional in these areas. However, nothing beats empowering a child to make good choices and protect themselves. This book is a great start to this process.
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